15 May 2012

The Start of Something New

I know I've been a little quiet lately on the blog and elsewhere.  A few days ago my boyfriend (who I loved dearly) of seven years broke it off.  I subsequently fell off the deep end, very much like that scene in Anchorman ("I'm in a glass case of emotion!"), but not quite as funny.

Fairly quickly I decided that instead of feeling sorry for myself and letting this ruin my hard earned graduation from college that I needed to take this as an opportunity for a new beginning.  In the Fall I will be moving to a new state, new university, new job, new everything.  What a chance I have here, I'm going to take full advantage of this!

I definitely needed a little boost to get me going, so I went to the place that heals all wounds, Webs!  As always, the second I walked into my favorite local yarn store I felt immediately better.

As though Webs knew I was going through a hard time, Ultra Alpaca was on super sale and so I helped myself to enough for a sweater.


Then I made a beeline straight to the Madelinetosh shelf.  I've always coveted this amazing yarn, but have never been able to justify the cost of more than one skein that one time (in a moment of weakness).  But, if this isn't an emergency, I don't know what is, and so I went for it and don't regret it one bit!


Things are difficult right now, but I'm going to stay positive and make the best of this situation.
On to bigger and better things!

26 comments:

  1. Crochet with RaymondMay 15, 2012 at 2:49 PM

    sorry to hear about your sad time, I agree, there is nothing more therapeutic than yarn shopping and you have chosen some stunning skeins to heal your heart. Lots of love X

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  2. I'm sorry to hear about your heartbreak! I used to tell myself that if a boy didn't like me, clearly, he wasn't all that bright...and I always wanted a smart guy, so I was better off....sharing that here on the off chance that somehow it makes you feel better. Seven years is a very long time. Any chance you're moving to Texas? :)

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  3. The same thing happened to my youngest as she finished college, and do you know, it was the best thing that happened to her. So put this behind you, the future is yours to grab with both hands, a fresh beginning all round. You have lots of lovely yarn to knit yourself something wonderful. Your heart won't be breaking for too long, Mr Right is out there, just go off and find him x x

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  4. Yarn therapy is definitely the best therapy there is... I did the same thing when I was demoted at work for no reason. Like the others say, this is a new beginning so take advantage of it, there is wisdom behind it and everything happens for a reason. It reminds me of my favorite quote, de la espina y el dolor crece la flor, it means, from the thorn and pain grows the flower. I'll leave you with the quote I have on my page:

    That is why it is so important to let certain things go. To release them. To cut loose. People need to understand that no one is playing marked cards; sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Don’t expect to get anything back, don’t expect recognition for your efforts, don’t expect your genius to be discovered or your love to be understood. Complete the circle. Not out of pride, inability, or arrogance, but simply because whatever it is no longer fits in your life. Close the door, change the record, clean the house, get rid of the dust. Stop being who you were and become who you are.- Paulo Coelho, The Zahir.

    I hope you feel better soon!

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  5. Ivy,
    you are an amazing knitter, blogger, scientist and friend, and you can get through this. There is no better healer than yarn, and you made two amazing purchases! I know that moving on with life will be the best thing in the world for you, there is so much in store and apparently he just isn't part of it. His loss afterall. Anyways though, I want you to know I am on your side and you are seriously one of my best friends. Keep it up girl, you will go far!
    Congrats on Graduation by the way, I think I forgot to tell you that!

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  6. Sorry for your heartbreak love. Yarn is indeed the best therapy, that may explain why yarn is taking over my home. Good for you for doing something to make yourself feel better, that is already a step in the right direction. I will promise you it will get easier and I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason. Me and my ex broke up a little over a year ago aftering being together for 15 years. Whether it is 7 years or 15 years, it is never easy. I can tell you I feel like a better person without him. I am sure you will too someday.

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  7. Sounds like changes are in the wind.
    The Mom in me sez:
    some things we can not change, no matter how much we bemoan the situation

    Okay, now! Love Madelinetosh. Have not used Berroco, let along alpaca.

    Hope your choice of a new location is based on the proximity to a yarn source.

    You apparently know how to take advantage of the next phase of your life.

    hugs and hugs

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  8. Your post only confirms what I've grown to know since we've become friends -- that you are a strong, intelligent, and emotionally solid young woman. Yes, you should feel sad at this difficult moment in your life and shed a few tears as you let go. But you should also look to your future as you said ... a grand opportunity for newness and brighter things. Now for the yarn therapy -- I adore Berocco Alpaca and Madelinetosh Anything. Wise choices, dear friend, and you deserve pure enjoyment from working with these beauties. xo

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  9. Woo, yarn therapy! Beautiful choices, too.

    Pirate-Ex and I are very recently split up after 16 years together and 11 years married, so I can commiserate. :/

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  10. So much wisdom above and I can only offer - sometimes love stinks- then when you least expect it you'll find it again. Most importantly right now all the best to you on your graduation. You deserve yarn and more yarn and much celebrating!

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  11. Wow. I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you. Just keep moving forward (sounds like you are already doing a good job at this) graduation is around the corner. And there's not much that yarn doesn't make better :)

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  12. That is a real bummer. I'm sorry for all the hurt you are feeling. It is no fun at all.

    Now to the important question no one is asking. What color of Madelinetosh is that? And what weight? My current guess is Cousteau in DK.

    And do you have any inkling of what state you might be moving to? Might I suggest California.

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  13. hell yes, you deserve that madelinetosh! I hope that next time you indulge in a purchase of that amazing yarn, it's under happier circumstances.

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  14. Im sorry to read this, sounds like you are doing a great job of looking forward and taking care of yourself. That yarn looks divine! Sending some big hugs your way xx

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  15. It is never an easy situation when a wonderful journey comes to and end. I am sorry to hear of your break up but you are looking at it in the most healthy way - you have the opportunity to start afresh and something wonderful will come out of it for you, of that I am sure.
    And OH WOW - how stunning the yarn. You totally deserved that treat!

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  16. So sorry to hear you've had some sadness. I hope that gorgeous yarn helps boost you to an awesome new beginning :)

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  17. A break-up like this is always going to be horrible, but I take my hat off to the way you are handling it and say 'good for you'! This is definitely the best way to approach your situation, and if yarn is also a part of that then go for it! Tackle it head on!

    Take care!
    B x

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  18. i'm sorry you've had some sadness and you broke up however it's really a testiment to you how you're handling it - you're doing really well and that yarn is stunning. Good luck for your future, and for your graduation xxx

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  19. Oh Pumpkin, I'm sorry - I'm sending virtual hugs your way. That yarn is simply wonderful - enjoy every last stitch.

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  20. Sorry to read that you have to go through this. I have no doubts that you will emerge a strong person after all is said and done. Yarn heals. Time as well. Hang in there!

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  21. I'm so sorry you're going through the roller coaster of a break up. Seven years is a long and precious time and if that ding dong can't recognize how truly valuable and precious you are, screw that.
    Yarn therapy is the best and you'll be startin' anew on an adventure in a new place with new things. Some things happen for a reason which you can't see the good in now but don't worry, even betta things will happen for you esp. in the heart dept. Hugs.

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  22. Sorry to read about your sad news. I'm really impressed with your attitude though, finding the silver lining.

    As for the yarns you chose, they're beautiful! Can't wait to see what you make with them.

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  23. I haven't been online much lately, but I just saw this and wanted to comment. Sorry you're having a crappy time :( I think the MadTosh was an absolutely necessary purchase, everyone needs soft gorgeous yarn to play with when things are rubbish.

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  24. I love the way you have dealt with what must have been a blow. You go, girl, and enjoy the heck out of graduation, then knit that Tosh up into something spectacular. Best of wishes in the new town, new job and new life! Sunshine and smiles are coming!

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  25. Oh boy, that is rough - and your attitude in coping with it all is just awesome. I'm glad you were able to get some yarny consolation - yarn hugs are always good. And I can only concur, Madeline Tosh yarns are awesome. I love how the colors shine.

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  26. I'm sorry about the break-up. :/ Knitting (and my bunny Spike) literally saved me from the wallowing I did after a wretched break-up. The ex told me I'd never be happy with knitting and a bunny and I have absolutely proven him wrong. I hope knitting comforts you as much as it did me.

    With Madtosh and alpaca, you CAN'T feel bad! It's just not allowed. :)

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